Happy Monday loves ❤
This past weekend I visited two dear friends in Houston. This trip has been planned for about 3 months and I had a wonderful time. I even went on a triple date on Saturday night!
Back story: About a month ago on Tinder, I was swiping right to everyone (thanks to my roommate’s grand idea) just to see who I got and then weeding it down from there. One guy, Harding (name changed) had started chatting with me. He isn’t particularly drop dead gorgeous, but he was actually really interesting to talk to. Turns out we had a lot in common with Disney, discussing feminism, Harry Potter, food and booze, so yay! After a bit of deeper conversation, he is from Austin, TX and was in Chicago to see friends. We tried to meet up once near my apartment but I ended up falling asleep.
Anyway, we kept texting after he left Chicago and I told him that I would be in Houston in August. Not looking at a map, or knowing how far Austin was he gave me suggestions on places to see. Then later, he asked if I had wanted to get dinner on Saturday night because he was going to be out in my direction any way. That’s sweet but I was only in town for two nights…and I wasn’t sure what my friends had planned. I asked them if they might be down for a double date? They said, of course! We would go get Mexican food then head over to Top Golf. Perfect. I told Harding and he was excited about it.
Finally, we solidified plans and he was going to be about 20 minutes late since his cousin lived farther away than he thought. Turns out, homeboy drove almost 3 hours just to see me (I didn’t know this until the end of the night). Back to the date night.
Saturday rolls around and I confirmed plans with Harding regarding timing and places. He said he would text if he was running late, perfect. My friends and I went out for a delicious brunch and bloody mary’s. Then we went to this fancy outdoor mall and walked around for a bit. Finally, we went home and watched a movie. I ended up taking a quick cat nap and then waking up to learn how to use a golf club (I’ve never been and my buddy didn’t want me looking too foolish). I quickly got ready and we headed to the Mexican restaurant. My friends had some of their friends meet us as well. I told him to text me when he got here so I could meet him outside prior to introducing him to the troops. He walks in and is a little sweaty, I totally forgot that he rode his motorcycle all the way…shiz. However, he is a lot cuter in person….even though his chops were Wolverine style.
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After introductions, we sat down and started chatting. I instantly felt a connection with him but was nervous and did my ‘look away, don’t maintain eye contact’ gig. We ate food (my taco’s were nasty…lame) then drove over to Top Golf. It was over a 2-hour wait, so we ended up going to a bar called Bareback. They had an open concept with picnic tables and TONS of lawn games. I was in love. They had bags, giant beer pong sans beer, horseshoes, shuffleboard, giant Jenga and darts. As we walked up to the bar, he asked if he could buy me a drink. Que cute!
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We sat down and waited patiently to play bags. Since we had to win the board back, I just sat next to him and we chatted. We just had good conversation, it made me smile. Then we played bags and dominated 😀 He said I was hot for scoring most of the points. Hah, it’s my gameeeee.
Then we moved over to play giant Jenga and started some interesting bets. I ended up having to grab his ass and doing the chicken dance. We laughed a lot, which I enjoyed. Then we moved away from the group and just sat to talk. After awhile, our friends came back over and we started playing a small bout of footsie. How high school, but I didn’t mind. Finally, the boys went to close their tabs and my friend asked, “sooooo what’s next?” I said, I feel really bad if he has to drive back to Austin which is 3 hours away and it’s late. I like him, but I don’t want to do anything with him. She said, he’s a big boy…don’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do. We walked outside, and towards his bike while my friends walked away. He asked what my next plan was, and I said I was going to go back with my friends because all my stuff is there and I had an early flight to catch the next day. He then walked in to kiss me and held me so tight. It felt good to be wanted like that, no implications of sex just a really good kiss.
I texted him on my way back to my friends house saying, you’re a really good kisser. He responded and said I could kiss you until the sun rises. Then he texted me when he got home and said he was still thinking about kissing me. I woke up through the night and kept thinking of him. I texted him and said, I hope you had a good time. Talk to you in the morning. Then I didn’t hear from him allll day. I texted him when I got back to Chicago around 3:30pm, and asked him if he was still sleeping? He said no, I’ve been playing games and doing laundry all day. That bummed me out. I didn’t hear anything more all day, and I wished him a good night. Then this morning, he just said, “I hope you had fun in Houston.”
…so did he want sex? I’m so confused. I thought there was more connection than that. I mean, I know he lives over 900 miles away and if anything moved beyond the point we are at now, it could get complicated. I guess I’m not one to push away opportunities for relationships because who knows what could happen? I never want to say, I wish I did _____.
Being the crazy girl that I am, I want to ask him wtf happened? Is that not ok? I’m really bad at this dating thing.
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I just gotta shake it off.
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